The narrative to boosting SELF-CONFIDENCE

At the mention of a confident woman, we may promptly idealize someone who’s fundamentally independent, someone who believes in her abilities, trusts her intuition and is generally stable in her life. However, as a confident woman can you truly say you’ve always been confident in your manifestations? Yea – I know, me too.

You know, with confident women, it’s not that they don’t experience insecurity – they have rather mastered the principles that proclaim them as self-assured. They have adopted enviable habits that they rely on throughout their lives and you can’t help but admire them. I’ll shed light on some of these practices.

First and foremost practice to see yourself exactly how you’d like the world to see you. A confident woman knows her self-worth and she conveniently articulates this into her surroundings. How else will it be possible if you’re not going to have a hand in the way that people see and treat you?

The energy you put out is diverted back at you, so be the authority that governs how you’re going to be treated socially, in relationships and business. Name your price and if anyone is opposed to it they have a choice to evade the expense no hassles on your side if you know what I mean. The cost of shrinking yourself is very expensive; it is an everlasting liability.

Zero in onto your insecurities and take advantage. Take cognizance of your anxieties and be strategic in dealing with them. For instance, when you feel like you’re not good enough to achieve it that should only set the tone for you to be the most appropriate time to run with it. Go right ahead and do it, just give your best shot and I’m telling you even before you witness the outcome you’ll be ecstatic simply because you took the initiative and acted regardless.

This will definitely make you feel like you have conquered the world and you’ll only have yourself to thank. Confident women have incorporated this culture into their regime. They understand that they won’t feel confident, strong and motivated all the time, therefore, they don’t wait to take action.

Put yourself out there more and exercise autonomy. Avail yourself, accept challenges and take up opportunities. The most determining factor is exposing yourself and breaking out of your shell.

I’ll tell you now that there’s usually nothing that goes on behind those elongated walls that people tend to create for themselves besides feelings of inadequacy and stagnation. You’ll honestly never know your true potential unless you push through and that means extending yourself beyond what you think you can achieve. Break the barriers and reach for your goals.

Connect with significant others. Learn the importance of relating to others for personal growth and cultivate just the kind of relationships that serve a purpose in your life.

Maintain relationships with people that respect, care, and love you. People who believe in your abilities; who inspire and propel you. Their affirmations should provide your insecurities with gentle strokes while encouraging confidence and growth.

Confident women are not those who are self-assured all the time, however, their determination in discovering what lurks beyond the margins stand out. They are efficient beings who are able to apply the force within themselves to ultimately live up to their best potential.

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Sunshine blogger award

A special shout out to Prajwal of your thoughts for nominating me for this Sunshine blogger award. I’d like to thank you for the gesture of kindness. Without any further ado let’s get into it.

Here’s my attempt to the ten questions.

1. If you get a chance to go back in the past and change a thing, what would it be?

I never ever want to put myself through that agony. What’s in the past remains intact where it’s supposed to be. All my experiences good and bad have taught me something.

2. Would you be the one who approaches first in friendship or the one who is approached?

I don’t know if friendships are practically approached like that but I feel they should form naturally, nothing forced. I’m only hoping that I put in as much effort as my mates in friendships that’s all.

3. Is it possible to UNLOVE somebody?

Let’s just say one gets over it. You just learn to live without them; move on and live your best life. Phew! – that was hectic.

4. What is the craziest thing that you have done in your life till now?

I acted on vengeance and the person that was meant to suffer the consequence never eventually became aware of my deed because I immediately felt ashamed and managed to do some damage control. It was crazy and awful. 🤦🏽‍♀️

5. What is that most important lesson that life have taught you till now?

Life has taught me that ultimately it is just you and you’re responsible for your life.

6. What is the current goal of your life?

Right now I just want to secure my degree and that has to be within the timeframe I’ve set.

7. Have you ever had a Deja-Vu? Tell me about it.

Definitely. I’ve experienced it a couple of times but I just can’t bring one instance forward.

8. Who are your TOP FIVE ( I mean closet five people without which you cannot imagine your life) ?

Maternal Grandmother, mother, siblings and best friend.

9. Choose a movie title to describe yourself.

The armageddon…Hahahaha! Ohh-wee don’t mind me. But this is a tough one…I don’t know. “Loner”. Yes, I think because mostly I enjoy my own company.

10. What is the one thing about yourself that you greatly admire?

My tenacity to bounce back. I hate defeat so I’ll constantly poke for ways to get out of any situation no matter what.

Just when I was getting the hang of things I must wrap up. Don’t forget to check out your thoughts  – Prajwal writes on philosophy and life.

The following are rules of the award nomination 

1. Display the sunshine Blogger Award logo in a post on your blog
2. Thank the blogger who nominated you, put a link back to their blog.
3. Answer the 10 Questions.
4. Nominate 5-10 bloggers who you feel that deserve this award.
5. Let the nominees know that you’ve nominated them and provide them with questions to answer.

I nominate all the masses who are willing to partake. It would be interesting to read on your answers.


1. What is your birth name?
2. What is the one thing you’d love to be known for?
3. Do you believe in fairytales?
4. Mention the one thing you can’t get enough of.
5. When was the last time you cried?
6. What songs have you completely memorized?
7. What are you reading currently?
8. What is your current goal?
9. Is it possible to unlove somebody?
10. If you had to choose to live without one of your five senses, which one would you give up?

Looking forward to get to know y’all better.



Inside an introverted mind

She’s quite reserved and eccentric;

habitually exists in her mind.

Few can claim to know her; an introvert she is.



An extreme thinker.

Trust her to be logical.

See the clarity in her vision.

A true introvert indeed.



Kind hearted and rarely judgmental.

Her love is deep yet withdrawn.

Such an effortless introvert.



A wave of mystery so hard to grasp.

She causes a stir and confusion.

Well, a culpable introvert exists.



The agony amidst misjudgment.

The more she withdraws into herself.

Only she knows how to lead an introverted life.



Desperate cries in solitude.

Definitely not pride but reticence.

Still she won’t blend – a thorough introvert.



Each is a unique version; an intentional creation.

Not perfect, yet, a model that is fitting.

She’s perfectly an introverted introvert!


37 things I’m grateful for – gratitude list

Think about the things you eagerly wanted, the stuff you often prayed for and was fortunate to have eventually earned. Reflect on how they’ve changed your life. Now consider the people who are always there to love and support you even when you don’t least deserve it. Think about how your life would be if they weren’t around. Well, if that’s not enough reason to be grateful then I don’t know what is.

I thought I’d post this last week already but then I realized that this was something I genuinely needed to do for myself – to reflect as well as experience it on an emotional sphere. I didn’t want to create a mere post out of it, but to rather pause take a moment and be thankful.

Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for. ~ Epicurus

We become so infatuated with what we don’t have and subsequently lose cognizance of what we’re already blessed with. The overflowing clutter of things-to-do keep us so busy that we often miss out on precious things; sheer moments of gratitude and joy. So after consideration I then took time to compile my gratitude list – the things, moments and people that put color into my life.


  1. I’m grateful that I’m able to wake up to the light of a new day.
  2. Being comfortable with who I am. Yassssss!
  3. The satisfaction from sleeping
  4. Health
  5. Everyone that cares
  6. Love
  7. Empathy
  8. Kindness
  9. Education and knowledge
  10. My mothers (plural)
  11. My mother’s son
  12. My only sister
  13. Niece
  14. Family
  15. Friends
  16. Confidante
  17. The unexpected calls and texts that indicate that I matter
  18. The dreams
  19. All those who believe in me
  20. Music – the fact that it moves me literally and figuratively
  21. Wow! Food guys
  22. All I’ve achieved so far
  23. The bright and gloomy days
  24. All the “I love, I care and I miss you’s”
  25. Connection; phones, internet just the whole nine yards
  26. Forgiveness, the fact that I get a chance to redeem myself
  27. Vacations
  28. Warmth
  29. Board games
  30. My English teacher back in high school, I remember every single word in the letter she wrote me.
  31. The elasticity to adapt to change
  32. Intuition
  33. Laughter
  34. The second, third and multiple chances
  35. Writing
  36. Television
  37. The beginnings and endings

You’ve probably once witnessed time going past you and in turn regretted that you had taken things and people for granted. It is open knowledge that gratitude is not easy to practice but what is the use of working on anything if we’re unable to show appreciation. How are we going to find value in what we are yet to achieve if we’re challenged now as it stands. I don’t know but just maybe if we could attempt to live in the moment, cherish what we have and grasp contentment in every way possible we’d be a little happier and fulfilled – just maybe.

Do you ever take a moment? Forward your thoughts.